This post has little to do with business directly but it has been bouncing in my brain for months so I have to let it out before it does more damage. Warning, this is some seriously opinionated shit. The fact that is is true does not make it less opinionated.
1- Quit playing video games so much. I get it. Video games are a nice release. They can be fun. That said if you spend more time playing video games than you do sleeping you have issues. I play maybe….maybe a couple hours a month and most of that would be WITH my children. As long as you sit there pretending to be bad-ass and cool you will never be bad-ass and cool. I have seen “men” with set ups they have spent thousands on all to pretend they are bad ass warriors while ignoring everything else in their life. Grand Theft Auto made 800 million dollars in its first day released. That is pathetic.
2- Get in shape. Yes your wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/husband will love you for who you are. Yes they probably will not leave you for getting fat and squishy. That said do it anyway. Eating too much and laying around too much is unhealthy and unappealing. You do not have to shape your body into marble but at least give a shit about what you look like without a shirt on. It also shows discipline. Something most people lack. It builds energy and makes you better at what you do
3- Quit getting drunk and high all the time. You know what everyone loves? Yup that wasted idiot that makes a giant fool of himself and his significant other. Show some fucking discipline and make it a rare occasion that you do this.
4- Be a damn father. FAR too many men in this country think it is their job to spread their worthless seed around. If you get a woman pregnant you need to become a father. This also applies to dads that do stay, but spend no time with their children at all. You are a father, spend time with your children and actually give a shit. Either yours did, and you love him for it, or yours didn’t and you hate him for it. Either way you should. I always wish I did more with my children.
5- Get a fucking job. No it is not beneath you to do that. No you are not over-qualified to do that. No you are not better than that. I walked into work one day for a store meeting. The BIG owner was in town so this was a rare meeting. This owner was worth millions and had 20 some stores under his belt. I went back to use the toilet before the meeting and there was the big man scrubbing the toilet. He said hello and that it was good to see me. He was scrubbing the fucking toilets before the meeting. Not his job? Bullshit. Give a fuck about the place you work and realize that nothing is beneath you and supporting your family. Your job DOES NOT define who you are. Also you do not need to love your job. That is why they pay you to be ther. If you loved it they would not have to pay you to be there.
6- Quit farting in front of women. Seriously. Knock it off. You are not in high school. Try and show some class.
7- The t-shirts and tennis shoes are NOT everyday wear. Go pick up a decent pair of shoes and stop dressing like a slob. Have some respect for the way you look. There is nothing wrong with wearing a suit once and a awhile.
8- Learn a damn skill. Getting a college degree is not a skill. Learn carpentry, how to weld, or even grow a garden. Become useful in some way that does not involve a keyboard. There is NO feeling in the world like creating something with your bare hands.
9- Quit watching so much TV. My TV is almost always on when I am in the room so I am also guilty. However I am barely paying attention most of the time. It takes everything I have to sit through a movie and not be doing something else. I am online reading articles, responding to emails, planning business. My wife actually has to ask me to stop working.
10- Give. Give of your time, your skills, your knowledge, and your money. Give to those who need it. Quit being stingy. Quit saying your time is worth XXX. Quit being a dick. Giving of your skills costs you nothing. Giving of your knowledge costs even less. If you know something that could help other people share it and share it freely. If you have extra money give it away.
Bonus- 11- Treat the woman/man in your life as though they are the most special person in your life because they are.